Paradigm differences

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 We were talking today about the point of life.  He said the point of life was to be happy.  Ok?  I disagreed and said the point of life was to be successful.  How can you be happy if you aren't successful?  Why do I have to be successful to be happy?  <Mind Blown> My son then said the difference between democrats and republicans is that republicans don't care about people they don't know and democrats value all people.  Obviously, our discussion was not going anywhere.  My son was obviously disappointed hearing my thoughts on happiness, success and life.  Now I wonder if I've offended him or damaged his self esteem.

He is having a hard time finding a job.  He was doing something for an AI company making prompts and that didn't work out.  Then they moved him to a job rating prompts and responses created by others.  That seems to have dried up too.  I don't know how it works.  All I know is he gets up whenever he feels like it, plays some computer games and was doing some of the work on his schedule.  Not the company's schedule.  And now they're not giving him any more work to do.  The company's name is Outlier.  I think it's a scam.  I don't think my son demonstrated a strong work ethic.

A friend of mine has developed a computer game.  He needs someone who knows C++ and Python.  He spoke with my son and was interested in hiring him.  My son was given some videos to watch and tasked with learning something about blueprint.  That was two days ago.  I asked him if we watched the videos.  He said no.  I'm like WTF - someone is giving you an opportunity and you're not doing anything with it.  Do you want to do it or not?  I don't know.  Well start by watching the videos and then make a decision. 

My son didn't want to go back to Chick-Fil-A because it doesn't have any direct correlation to his chosen career path.  Should I have put my foot down and said get a job a chick-fil-a if it's the only one you can get.  Sitting in your room playing computer games really isn't an option.

His mother sticks up for him.  The economy is bad.  OK - That may be true.  So don't do anything?  I guess having a job is not better than having no job?  I don't understand.

The lack of motivation is concerning to me.

When I was younger, I started working at age 16 and I've held a job ever since.  I wanted a job.  I wanted to make money so I could do what I wanted and buy things.  I didn't like asking my parents to fund my lifestyle.  I wanted to be responsible for myself.  I remember when I quit college.  My Dad said I could live at home - I had to have a job and I had to pay rent.  I think it was 400 bucks a month or something.  I don't really remember.  I was totally fine paying rent and working.  

I guess we'll see how the coming holiday week plays out.  I work on Monday and am off throughout the remainder of the week.  Family time.  

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