I wonder
I wonder how my sister and her husband will spend their remaining days? I wonder if he will stay in a hospital or die at home.
When my Nanna got sick, my pappy made the decision to bring her home. They had a hospital bed put in the living room and she died there. At home. With her family.
When my dad was last in the hospital, I didn't know if he was going to live or die. I didn't want to bring him to our house because I didn't want to put my family through that. He went into a memory care facility and was put on hospice. He is one of the miracles that graduated from hospice. He's doing better having moved into assisted living compared to how he was living previously at his house.
My mom isn't doing as well as my dad. I don't know what her situation is or how her remaining days will be. She hasn't taken good care of her health and my dad hasn't forced her to take care of herself. I don't know what to do with her. It's kinda sad and I try not to think about it.
When my wife was extraordinarily sick…. I didn't give consideration to her life ending. Her dying was not an option I had on the table. There was a tsunami of prayer and positive thought coming from around the world for her healing. I think she was a miracle.
I would visit her daily while she was in a coma. I'd talk to her about the kids and shared many thoughts with her. I read Harry Potter to her because I knew it was her favorite book. I made recordings of the kids of them talking to her and wishing her well. I played those to her. She pulled through. She is tough as nails and she is a fighter. She's amazing.
How do you spend time with someone who's made the choice to go into hospice care because they don't want to live in their current circumstance? Would you spend the days together? Make them as special and loving as possible? Would there be tears. Would there be tension or an aura of resolute calmness. Will they eat together? Pray together? Laugh and cry together? All of the above?
I wonder if either of them resent the doctors who spent nearly 30 minutes bringing him back to life. They had to have known the prognosis and how debilitating his survival would be. They saved him - but in essence they gave him a slow and painful death and the last 6 months have been terrible. Does anyone involved have any regrets?
The last breath will be painful. I hope there is a sigh of relief and comfort knowing he has been restored in heaven. Those still here will mourn the loss-his wife, his daughter, his parents, friends and congregation.
At least now he has a choice and he made the choice. May he go peacefully. May my sister be happy his pain is gone and he is at peace. I hope she is able to accept, mourn and move on. Same with their daughter. What a heartbreaking situation for all involved.
No one ever expects to lose their spouse of 30 years at such a young age.
Cherish your loved ones.
When my Nanna got sick, my pappy made the decision to bring her home. They had a hospital bed put in the living room and she died there. At home. With her family.
When my dad was last in the hospital, I didn't know if he was going to live or die. I didn't want to bring him to our house because I didn't want to put my family through that. He went into a memory care facility and was put on hospice. He is one of the miracles that graduated from hospice. He's doing better having moved into assisted living compared to how he was living previously at his house.
My mom isn't doing as well as my dad. I don't know what her situation is or how her remaining days will be. She hasn't taken good care of her health and my dad hasn't forced her to take care of herself. I don't know what to do with her. It's kinda sad and I try not to think about it.
When my wife was extraordinarily sick…. I didn't give consideration to her life ending. Her dying was not an option I had on the table. There was a tsunami of prayer and positive thought coming from around the world for her healing. I think she was a miracle.
I would visit her daily while she was in a coma. I'd talk to her about the kids and shared many thoughts with her. I read Harry Potter to her because I knew it was her favorite book. I made recordings of the kids of them talking to her and wishing her well. I played those to her. She pulled through. She is tough as nails and she is a fighter. She's amazing.
How do you spend time with someone who's made the choice to go into hospice care because they don't want to live in their current circumstance? Would you spend the days together? Make them as special and loving as possible? Would there be tears. Would there be tension or an aura of resolute calmness. Will they eat together? Pray together? Laugh and cry together? All of the above?
I wonder if either of them resent the doctors who spent nearly 30 minutes bringing him back to life. They had to have known the prognosis and how debilitating his survival would be. They saved him - but in essence they gave him a slow and painful death and the last 6 months have been terrible. Does anyone involved have any regrets?
The last breath will be painful. I hope there is a sigh of relief and comfort knowing he has been restored in heaven. Those still here will mourn the loss-his wife, his daughter, his parents, friends and congregation.
At least now he has a choice and he made the choice. May he go peacefully. May my sister be happy his pain is gone and he is at peace. I hope she is able to accept, mourn and move on. Same with their daughter. What a heartbreaking situation for all involved.
No one ever expects to lose their spouse of 30 years at such a young age.
Cherish your loved ones.
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